Finding a Nice Apartment

When it comes to finding the very best apartment to stay at it is clear that you will run into a wide variety of options, and it can often be somewhat difficult to make up your mind about where to go. For starters, you will definitely want to take your time with this one, since it is clear that if you are going to be spending a lot of money to purchase a brand new apartment or even just rent one, you will want to do everything you can to avoid making the wrong choice. There are a few things that should be learned in the subject of apartments for sale before anyone makes that final decision to buy one, and by always remembering to be careful it is fairly likely that you will end up with an amazing looking apartment that will be really nice and just what you may have always wanted.

The first thing to do is to take a mental note of what you would ideally like your apartment to look like, as this will essentially help to simplify the process of heading out and searching for a new apartment for sale. Most people have a pretty good idea of how they would like their perfect apartment to look so if it turns out that you are already down on buying something that looks a certain way, it will be easier to locate it if you know exactly what you want already. There are numerous methods that can be used to find different apartments for sale, ranging from the hiring of real estate agencies to going out around town looking for them on your own. If there is a specific look for an apartment you may very well be able to find it.

Another thing you will want to consider very carefully is the overall amount of money that you are going to be paying in order to own that apartment. It is clear that some flats will cost a lot more than others and this price will vary according to a lot of things, such as the neighborhood in which the apartment is located, the size of the apartment, and how luxurious it is. There are a lot of things you need to consider carefully, but in any case it is important to remember not to go over budget in any way, because this could put you in a very bad place financially. Taking the time to decide on an agreeable price that you are willing to invest in a new apartment will help you to avoid the all too common mistake of getting into mortgage problems, so remember to do that.

As you can see, when it comes to seeking out a good apartment for sale, there are definitely a large amount of things you should always remember to take into careful consideration. As you learn more about the various pros and cons of buying apartments, these things will then be made all the more clear to you.

Signs Your Marriage Is Falling Apart – Help for Couples in Crisis

You’re wondering if there’s a list of signs your marriage is falling apart, aren’t you? Sadly, it’s because you already know that things between you and your spouse have been better in the past than they are now. It’s difficult when you feel your relationship is shifting to a place of unhappiness and uncertainty. It’s hard to know though if it’s just a phase the two of you are going through or if there’s something serious you really need to address. When you’re in the thick of things, it’s often challenging to see things for what they are. There is help for that. Once you are able to understand the signs that your relationship is headed towards disaster, you can set out to repair it before it’s past the point of no return.

Here are 4 clear signs your marriage is falling apart:

You rarely talk to each other. Once a couple reaches a point where they only exchange words about the house or the kids, their marriage is definitely coming apart rapidly. If you feel as though there’s a barrier between you and your spouse and you two can’t find a way to communicate effectively, your marriage needs your attention, right now.

Intimacy is non-existent in your relationship. When lovemaking disappears from a marriage, it puts a heavy strain on both partners. The person pulling back from intimacy will feel guilty and the person being shunned will feel rejected. Intimacy is an essential part of a well balanced and satisfying marriage. If it’s no longer a part of yours, divorce may be looming in your future.

You look for excuses to spend less time together. When you’re happily married there’s no one you’d rather spend your time with than your spouse. When that shifts and you actively search for any small reason why you can’t be with them, your marriage is definitely on the brink of falling apart. This is especially true if one or the other of you doesn’t attend family vacations because they have too much work to tend to. This is simply a way for a person to distance themselves from the family because they are considering a separation.

Criticisms replace compliments. Do you remember the last time you complimented your spouse or they complimented you? Most couples who aren’t getting along will resort to criticizing one another much more frequently then they’ll compliment each other. This is a clear sign that you aren’t as concerned with one another’s feelings as you once were.

If you have no desire to end your relationship with your spouse you shouldn’t ignore any of the warning signs your marriage is falling apart. You have to address the problems and get to work fixing them. If you don’t, things will become increasingly worse.

Apartment Renting in Oaxaca, Mexico

Renting an apartment often presents a nice alternative to hotels or hostels for travelers staying in one location for a few days or longer. Hotels and hostels are more common than apartments, of course, but apartments should be considered.

Renting an apartment for a week or longer offers several advantages to staying in a hotel or hostel. One key advantage is cost: a nice apartment will just about always be cheaper if not far cheaper than a comparably nice hotel room. A second advantage is that an apartment almost by definition is far larger than any hotel room, and this is more important the longer the stay. Returning to a hotel room day after day where the only options are sitting on the one chair or lying on the bed gets old fast.

A third advantage is that an apartment has cooking facilities, which allows for additional savings; eating out daily adds up quickly. Additionally, people who have special dietary needs might prefer their own kitchen. Finally, one subtle advantage apartments have over both hotels and hostels includes allowing one to feel just a little less like a tourist and a little more like a local. Emerging from an unmarked building onto the street has a different feel from exiting a hotel.

Hostels can be quite inexpensive, and sometimes cost as little as an apartment, but that low cost comes with a price: shared dorms, bathrooms, and kitchen facilities. All can be shared, or sometimes a private room can be rented with a shared bath, or a private room and private bath can be rented with a shared kitchen. But the increased privacy costs more. Many people aren’t keen about sharing close quarters with strangers. This might be acceptable for more adventurous travelers (indeed, I shared quarters with strangers when I was younger) but most travelers want a nice, clean, quiet, and private place.

However, one advantage hotels and hostels have over apartments is that they tend to offer more service, including a desk clerk on duty most of the time, daily room cleaning, and so on. Apartments tend to be less directly service oriented. On-site manager, garbage removal, drinking water, sheets, towels, etc. might or not be part of the apartment package; you need to ask.

In Oaxaca, there are apartments that specifically cater to travelers and tourists, often associated with a hotel. They are prepared to deal with foreigners who don’t speak Spanish very well, and they also are likely to repair things that break and return your damage deposit when you leave. (Oaxacan landlords don’t necessarily do either!) There are other non-hotel affiliated apartment rentals that cater to the foreign traveler, but they aren’t always easy to find.

Finding them is not easy because there aren’t very many good ones. But here are a few tips that might help.

The first useful step, if you don’t have any local Oaxacan contacts, is to check the Internet. There are several good apartments listed that cater to foreigners and have nice, clean, tastefully decorated apartments at reasonable prices. Most are small, but they will be nice or at least nice enough. Arranging accommodations in advance is a huge relief to a lot of people, who then are able to focus their initial days or weeks on something other than trudging around looking for an apartment.

Info to seek — what is included in the price (gas, electric, city water, garbage removal, etc.), how much is the deposit, is there high speed Internet, kitchen furnished, maid service, and so on. Noise, access, security, pets, etc. Also inquire about the water tank capacity, a cistern, and its size. Apartments without adequate cisterns, especially during the dry season (Spring), can be very uncomfortable.

Be aware that apartment hunting after arriving in Oaxaca usually isn’t quite as easy and straightforward as in the US. In the US, many apartment buildings have an easily visible sign facing the street with contact info, and often basic info like how many rooms, baths, etc. And a quick phone call yields any additional basic info you need to decide if a showing is worth the time. In Oaxaca, signs out front are usually handwritten and have no info besides the phone number. So you often end up wasting time calling someone to discover it’s not worth seeing. If someone answers the phone. And if that person happens to know something about the apartment. Sometimes it takes multiple calls to get basic information.

Because there is no central listing of available rental apartments that I know of in Oaxaca, reliance on ad hoc listings is necessary. Newspapers have a small number of apartment rentals in their classified section but they tend toward the expensive. (This is not all bad: most gringos probably should look for more expensive apartments because the cheap ones are cheap for reasons prohibiting much gringo interest.) The Oaxaca Times, for example, could be checked on line before arriving.

A second place to look after arriving in Oaxaca is in the apartment listings at The Oaxaca Lending Library, on Pino Suarez just south of El Parque Llano. This is probably the best place to look, especially for nicer places that are gringo friendly.

After that, it’s pretty much walking around the streets and hit or miss. This last method is very time consuming and can be unpleasant and frustrating, especially when hot outside. I’ve looked at dozens of apartments with this method — it’s hot, apartments are far apart, sometimes the owners are 15 minutes late, etc. Often you can see within a nanosecond that the unit is nowhere near what you would consider — their definition of two bedrooms isn’t close to what you would call two bedrooms, the kitchen is grimy, etc. The primary advantage is learning the streets and neighborhoods and practicing Spanish. But gems are out there, however few and far between.

By all means consider renting an apartment if you are staying more than a few days, and especially if staying a week or longer. The extra space and the cost savings will make the search well worth the time.